does anybody have a wife,girlfriend,significant other that does not like to drive fast or says they get car sick just to make u slow down. and if the speedometer goes over 90 wwwhhhhhaaaaa slow down your gonna get a ticket,it's like ridin in the car with debbie freakin downer. ihave have just described my future x wife please let me know about your wonderful co-pilot or in my case not-so wonderful co-pilot.

 

I am going to say one word.......Food. Slow down when she is in the MINI, unless you want to go back to Swanson chicken pot pie and mac & cheese. Offer to go grocery shopping on your own, she will think your sweet but don't tell her the store is three counties over.
And then there is the last word.......Laundry. We won't even get into vacuming, dusting, mopping and the like.

 

mr.blue this is 2006 i do everything u named including mowing.i am def the ***** in the relationship,she even makes a hell of a lot more money than me.plus everyone of our few friends would rather i cook as well.

 

Your not going to want to hear this but ... One word of advice. If you intend to spend the rest of your life with her ... it is MUCH wiser to give in to her wishes ... in fact, to make HER wishes more important than your own ...

If you don't, you might as well split up now and find somehow with similar interests. (No, I am not kidding ... nothing should be more important than the SO).

If your lucky enough to find a SO that is also car nut, that works great. But if your interests are too diverse ... 20 years from now its dont look good. Yo Dr. Phil ... wanna step in here?

 

He cooks, mows, does laundry and loves his MINI. Those indeed are admirable traits. That money thing would still keep me in line when she is in the copilot seat. My wife and I also share domestic duties and that includes driving but I'm lucky in the fact that she likes driving almost as much as I do. She is also a little more more lead footed than I am but, it's all cool.

 

very good advice sir and i do,do that for sure but i do need time to vent time to time and this is it i guess.i guess u can not have it all my parents split 20 years down the road after 3 kids, selfish. she might not like adrenaline fueled activities but i love the s--t out of her and she is gorgeous and smart and does not beleive in cleaning but oh well you can't have everything ,but we must be happy for what we do have.

 

An excellent answer... I would say this because it does sound likey our in love.

When your interests are diverse, just get "it" out of your system when your driving alone. When she is a passenger, respect her wishes. That way ... all is cool. Over time, she might get more excited over cars but if you shove it down her throat ... she will not appreciate that.

Nothing wrong with taking a drive now and then to have your fun without getting the SO POed.

Best of luck!

 

Our two dogs are my best co-pilots. My husband constantly squeals at me to slow down, and screams like a girl.

 

Guess I must be getting old. I get my speed fix on the track and usually only go about 9-10 miles over the speed limit to avoid tickets and jacking up my insurance rates.

 

I don't (generally) drive more than 10 over...but here in the Bay Area it's like the Autobahn with lots of weaving, passing, people flying by at 100 MPH and tons of traffic.

And then there's the windy backroads that go up over the mountains...

 

I'm sooo lucky. Becky is also a car nut and a speed freak. On breaking in Gromit, we took him over Patterson Pass road (Bay Area residents know where I mean) just south of the Altamont Pass. I was flinging Gromit from turn to turn, and Becky, though holding on for dear life, had a huge grin on her face. Same thing when the seating is reversed.

For those who don't like driving fast, remember that it is not just a case of, "Oh gee I don't like that." It's a bonafide fear. Reason and logic have no place when fear is involved, and it's a personal thing that really can't be compared to anything else for them.

So I would suggest taking your speed-need to an autocross, and maybe look into time and distance rallies for the two of you. If the only problem in your relationship is that she doesn't like to be in a fast moving car, you're a pretty lucky guy!

 

 

My wife and daughter get car sick, so when I drive, it's slow, slow, slow, think Sunday drivers in a minivan. She knows what the car and history of the Mini is, that's why she encourages me take it alone when running errands, heading out for club events and such with my son. She says have fun, be safe and see you later.

Perhaps you should let her drive once in a while or at least suggest it. She might start enjoying the car once she sees how it is. Chow has it right, the interest of the SO should always come first.

 

I'm with you. Six over is about my limit. No tickets and no accidents in this family and we have some of the lowest insurance rates I know of... even with an 18 yr. old driver. It pays to avoid those tickets.

 

If only I were lucky enough to find a co-pilot that didn't insist on switching over to the driver's seat everytime we're in MY car. I'm very picky about who I'll allow to drive Sir Geoffrey though, all the guys that I know have some of the worst speeding ticket records EVER!

I am enjoying the fact that Sir Geoffrey appears to be a guy magnet though..

 

Let her drive, maybe shes like me a terrible passenger, I like to drive fast but can't handle it when anyone else does with me in the car

 

tried to teach her to drive a manual transmission but just could not get her to get it but that is allright since i wrote this we have come to an agreement that i will do my best to not speed with her in the car, and i do understand, i do not like riding with people who drive aggresively either,must be in control at all times! plus most of the nice people who replied sided with her so i thought i had better get my head out of my butt! and thank you everyone for your thought's.

 

This is SO true! I am just like that. I think it is the feeling of being in control of the car vs. being a helpless passenger. Plus it feels faster/curvier to the passenger that to the driver. When I drove boats it always felt rougher to the passengers than to me.