I would have to say that in spite of my obsession my wife has been pretty cool about the whole thing.

Another few "You know your obsessed when..."

1. you can quote all the lines in both IJ movies.
2. you have to start your own MINI related business to suport your habbit.
3. the only thing you can hold a conversation with is Mini related.

I would have to say yes to all of them. I guess your not obsessed after all Wagnbat.
Oh and yes reaching 10K in your first new car calls for celabration. My only question is What took you so long.

What I would do is take her to Cold Stone one night for no reason at all except to show your love.

 

My wife drove a VW convertible when we started dating back in the 70s, which she sold and replaced with an Austin Healey 3000 after we went to a concours d'elegance and she fell in love with one. She did an autocross, a few gimmick rallies, and club rides. Was an officer of the national AH Association, and worked on their newsletter, and went to three (I think?) of their national conventions.

So when we went and test drove a MINI and I just knew I absolutely had to have one, her only stipulation was that she gets to drive it sometimes, too.

As the old commercial used to say, "My wife - I think I'll keep her!"

Hey Wagnabat - congrats on the raise and the 10k mark. At look on the bright side - your wife likes ice cream!

 

I don't even have mine yet and my partner is sooooo sick of everything MINI. He does know when I am a bad mood, all he has to say is "MINI" and I feel better.

I do think though, that if he sees one more picture of a MINI, a mod for a MINI, or a Whalen shift ***, he is gonna leave me...

 

My wife joked that she was number three in our relationship. First was my Mustang, Second was my cat Sasha, and third was her. She proposed anyway! But understanding? Very, didn't even blink when I paid $4k to get the Mustang track ready.

When I was researching (read drooling over the new Mini) she wispered in my ear when walking by (I was on the web) "Just get one already" and into the other ear "and get the S. I don't want to hear you ***** later..."

Looks like you have to find the way to make her feel special, that she really digs. Do that and all the issues will fade away....

Good luck!

Matt

 

me and my friends went out in the mini for lunch the other day. When they asked what name to put the table in, my friends responded, "Synthia"...

I think I realized I love my car too much. VROOOm Vrooom!

 

Matt, you got a great gal there! She's also very smart...

 

If you did, you'd think she was very very dumb!

J/K.... But I am a very lucky man, for sure....

Matt

 

Cold Stone... I flinch when I hear that name... I used to like Cold Stone until I had those super buckets with only three firneds. That was a stupid mistake, but I just can't go near a Cold Stone anymore.

 

Naw...you got a MINI so that gives you a definite headstart in the brains department!

 

my girlfriend was getting tired of my talking about the MINI before I even ordered it... I was (obviously) on here every day and night when I got home from work... just soaking up everything I could while saving for the down payment. by the time I ordered it she was just so happy to have that over with......... until the wait started. It wasn't until the car showed up that she was ok with it. now she loves the little guy and definately loves that I am now the one that drives anywhere (her lease miles this year will love it too!). now if only she had gotten me that whalen for xmas... lol. I already told her that she can have her own CVT once her lease is up or if she can get out of hers. She has now conceded to let me get a classic Mini for a project car once we get a house with a garage and she's out of nursing school. I think that set it in stone... now I'm saving for a ring :P

 

People always get weirded out when a little girl like me is so obsessed with cars... and more importantly, MINI's :P Since i bought my first car after i was with my last b/f (of 3 years) people that knew me before him, knew me without my own transportation... but everyone that's known me since i broke up with him has known me as the car-obsessed MINI owner. All i talk about are MINIs, i wear a mini pin on my shirts, i have mini stuff all over my office, and my room is decorated with over 100 MINI toys.

SOOO anyone that dare dated me had to put up with my obsession. Luckily, the guy i like (although he calls me a loser for it) is ok with the MINI, and me talking baout it constantly. I'm even trying to convince him to come to mini events.

wagnbat... she might not like driving because look what she drives. get her to test drive that PW/Blue MCC for a day and she might change her mind. Of course, i can't remember what it's like to not like driving, since i always have, and i've almost always had a fun car to drive. I know she likes food. Give her some grits then make her take a couple test drives. :P

 

I don't think it's too much. Just about everyone has some hobby or something they really love. She needs to find hers.

You should make just a little effort to show her that she's special though, do little things for her that don't involve the MINI. I know it's hard for guys sometimes but you have to remember we females are wired a little different and if you truly have a good relationship, flowers here or there or an unexpected dinner out as a surprise will go a long way. We need to be reminded every once in a while that we are #1... even if it's just through small things. Any woman who needs constant encouragement needs help of another kind but do remember to give a little.

Oh... and "I'm not doing anything for you cause you didn't do anything for me" is a wrong way to look at things. Celebrate something because it means something to her and hopefully she will learn to do the same for you.


I've had guys that were in my life in one way or another who were completely dumbfounded with my obsession with cars. I always realize that if someone rolls their eyes and makes fun of what you love, it's not going to work because they are disrespecting you and what you care about. If they either share the obsession or accept it and have something of their own they love, good job. If you truly care about someone, you have to make an effort to accomodate things in their personality that you may not get... that's who the person is. Sometime you just have to say "I don't get it, but I'm glad it makes you happy"

 

If she thinks a $0.25 per hour raise is worth celebrating, then it is!!

 

No, she doesn't like driving. In the past she has driven my two camaros, and didn't like it. And twice we have got automatic S loaners from our dealer, and both times she has refused to drive them over a period of multiple days.

And I mentioned earlier, if she REALLY wanted a Mini, we'd have another, but she'd have to give up her truck, and she doesn't want to. And I'd be willing to bet the #1 reason is because she has a pillow & blanket on the back bench-seat, and she sleeps during lunch. True story!

I've told her she needs a hobby for five years now.

Agreed. But like I mentioned in the first post, we didn't celebrate my raise. And it was the week before, and twice as much. Not saying 'nyah nyah mine is better', I guess I'm asking that if mine wasn't enough to celebrate, why is hers?

 

it meant something to her. It's not about fair, or even, it's about satisfaction and happiness. These defy quantification...

Personally, I like raises, but don't make a deal out of it at all. My wife is in a Nurses Union, she knows her raises years befor they happen. No big deal there either. She gets jazzed about things I'll never care about, but if she wants a trip to cold stone for one of em, off we go!

Matt

but the refusal to even drive the auto mini is a warning sign, that for whatever reason, this bothers her. It's not that you like your car that bothers her, but something sure does. It is in both your interests to figure out what that is, and see if you can find common ground (this doesn't mean caring equally about it though). I see a realationship warning sign... figure it out, before it blows up.

 

True.

She said she didn't want to drive it because it wasn't hers. I told her it would be better to drive it now and even figure out if she really wanted one, but she refused. Last Mini Breakfast @ our local dealership, she configured & printed out her own custom Mini. i r teh confuzed.

 

If she reads the above you might be more than just confused. You might be....Single.

After 26+ years I hope I've learned.

 

That's not true. Everyone knows she sleeps in her truck during lunch.

You assume much. You're welcome to ask her about it at the next get together. She's quite open about it.

 

I know it's hard to believe but some poeple are just not into these car like we are. In fact I have a few friends that hate this car and think they are ugly. It sounds to me like your wife may have a little of that in her but keeps it to herself as to not hurt your feelings.
Another things is, certain personalities just don't fit in the club atmosphear. My wife likes the car and thinks it is cute. She likes to go on fun runs from time to time but stays in the car and doesn't really talk to anyone. and refuses to go to any static events like ice cream. They are just not her type of people. Not that she hate them or anything. Just is not compatable Everyone is different in that sort of way. She hates crowds and I love them so I don't get it and never will. It's just one of those things you lovingly except in your spouse.

It boils down to I do my thing and she does hers and sometimes we take part in each others adventures to keep each other happy.

I still think you should surprise her and take her out to Cold Stone for no reason at all. It will mean the world to her and you would enjoy it too.

 

haha, I know what you mean. I don't think I'm going to have any friends left to enjoy my MINI once it arrives.

 

Similar to what I said and very good advice. People are just different and you either have to love them and accept it or it's not going to work.

Believe it or not, some people don't care for cars AT ALL. Look at how many Accords and Camrys you see on the road. People bought those as nice appliances, other things in this world matter far more to them.

You do things with your partner just to make them smile... and sometimes that means doing things without them. If they don't want to be part of something, don't force it. Go do your MINI stuff and leave with a smile and a kiss and come home with another smile and a kiss.


And yes, random ice cream is a very good thing. Do little things like that for her with no reason and you may be surprised how much she appreciates it and how she may have an overall change and be more tolerant of the MINI.

 

I do. We do cold stone 2-3 times a month randomly.

And she does like Mini's. She looks forward to every event our local club does, and whenever we're at the dealer she drools. But she doesn't want to give up her truck for one... And I believe it's because the truck is better for 'us', as much as it is 'hers'.

 

Now you need "ours"