What car for 19 yr old daughter - help!!!
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ACN;
Why is this your issue? It sounds like your daughter has already rejected your choice of car (Saab). Obviously this has nothing to do with how good or suitable a car may be, it has to do with her finding a car she wants for fun/transportation/style/identity. So why isn't she chosing?
The skill of parenting teenagers, IMHO, is to become irrelevant as they become themselves. My advice about buying cars to my teenagers: Buy me a Porsche!
Oh, if I had a nineteen year old daughter, I'd plead for help too! Good luck brother.
Why is this your issue? It sounds like your daughter has already rejected your choice of car (Saab). Obviously this has nothing to do with how good or suitable a car may be, it has to do with her finding a car she wants for fun/transportation/style/identity. So why isn't she chosing?
The skill of parenting teenagers, IMHO, is to become irrelevant as they become themselves. My advice about buying cars to my teenagers: Buy me a Porsche!
Oh, if I had a nineteen year old daughter, I'd plead for help too! Good luck brother.
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Originally Posted by BlueBonnet
ACN;
Why is this your issue? It sounds like your daughter has already rejected your choice of car (Saab). Obviously this has nothing to do with how good or suitable a car may be, it has to do with her finding a car she wants for fun/transportation/style/identity. So why isn't she chosing?
The skill of parenting teenagers, IMHO, is to become irrelevant as they become themselves. My advice about buying cars to my teenagers: Buy me a Porsche!
Oh, if I had a nineteen year old daughter, I'd plead for help too! Good luck brother.
Why is this your issue? It sounds like your daughter has already rejected your choice of car (Saab). Obviously this has nothing to do with how good or suitable a car may be, it has to do with her finding a car she wants for fun/transportation/style/identity. So why isn't she chosing?
The skill of parenting teenagers, IMHO, is to become irrelevant as they become themselves. My advice about buying cars to my teenagers: Buy me a Porsche!
Oh, if I had a nineteen year old daughter, I'd plead for help too! Good luck brother.
I've already told to her she's gonna need to get a great job, 'cause I've put my request in for her to "buy your old man a Ferrari Daytona".
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Originally Posted by AntiqueCarNut
I'm helping her to screen through the muck and understand how to find a good used car
I sympathize with your plight. Failure is the greatest teacher. If you're little one wants a classic pinto. . . I guess that's part of a college education
One word. Air bags.
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I guess I'm gonna show my age a bit, but I think she should be happy with a car that runs and is reliable.... 'image' should come last at this point.
The time to have a 'cool car' is NOT when you're 19. And certainly NOT with a supercharger (as a previous posted recommended) as most 19 year olds aren't very good drivers yet, and tend to think they're bulletproof.
I mean, if you do, what will the child have to work towards? I new car is a very special thing...and doesn't come along everyday. But from the sound of your post, sounds like she has you guys running around chasing all sorts of cars and in the end, (even after you'd bought one!) it wasn't good enough since it didn't suit her "image"?!! Whaaa?!!! ....man, I didn't get a new car (one I picked 'cause I really liked it and bought from a dealer) 'til I was 24. Before that, I drove 'basic transportation' and I put my money into a savings account for school, and then for an apartment, so I wasn't living at home when I got out of school. Once I had a good job and some work experience, THEN I got a new car.
I guess the times they are a changin'
[OK, I'll get off the soapbox now!]
- - m
The time to have a 'cool car' is NOT when you're 19. And certainly NOT with a supercharger (as a previous posted recommended) as most 19 year olds aren't very good drivers yet, and tend to think they're bulletproof.
I mean, if you do, what will the child have to work towards? I new car is a very special thing...and doesn't come along everyday. But from the sound of your post, sounds like she has you guys running around chasing all sorts of cars and in the end, (even after you'd bought one!) it wasn't good enough since it didn't suit her "image"?!! Whaaa?!!! ....man, I didn't get a new car (one I picked 'cause I really liked it and bought from a dealer) 'til I was 24. Before that, I drove 'basic transportation' and I put my money into a savings account for school, and then for an apartment, so I wasn't living at home when I got out of school. Once I had a good job and some work experience, THEN I got a new car.
I guess the times they are a changin'
[OK, I'll get off the soapbox now!]
- - m
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Well if not a 1980 Truimph Spitfire, how about a 1965-1966 Mustang Coupe. Find a nicely restored one with a six cylinder and 3 speed manual.
There is noting wrong with having a cool classic car at this age, providing that they are responsible enough to want to maintain it.
I bought my first car at the tender age of 19. It was a Triumph TR4. What a great car to have as a kid. It beat driving the 1971 Dodge Dart Swinger with the 225 cubic inch slant 6 by miles.
Steven
There is noting wrong with having a cool classic car at this age, providing that they are responsible enough to want to maintain it.
I bought my first car at the tender age of 19. It was a Triumph TR4. What a great car to have as a kid. It beat driving the 1971 Dodge Dart Swinger with the 225 cubic inch slant 6 by miles.
Steven
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Originally Posted by AntiqueCarNut
A good portion the $ is hers - I'm just helpin' her make an intelligent decision (if that's possible ).
Everyone is going to interject their feelings and what they have gone through in their life. Lets try to look at this from the daughters POV which, in reality, is the only one that counts.
Point by point
- At 19, she is NOT a child. She is an adult who can vote, join the military, get married, etc. As a young adult, she is entitled to have adult opinions on her choices.
- While my first car was "used", just a little older than her I bought my first NEW car ... WAY out of line of what my parents wanted. Not only was it nothing they would ever buy ... it was nothing the mainstream would be during the Muscle Car era ... a NEW 240Z ... sportscar.
Did I have anything else to look forward to? What kind of question is that? I really do not understand it. Of course there are newer, bigger, better cars to look forward to. Each step in life is just part of the journey. That first new car is just one little step. Set your goals high. While many here joke about those Ferraris ... think BIG. If you dont get it, so be it. Think small and so shall you receive (IMHO).
The fact that she is paying the bulk of the money, to me means, her opinion should be foremost. Now to Dad, by all means guidance and wisdom from our elders is always important. Its very good that your seeking advice ... wanting to see her safe and happy. YOU are to be applauded. You wrote she said: "Doesn't match my image" about the PT Cruiser.
I think you seriously need to look at the situation from a college kids POV as a young female adult. Not as "Dad". IMAGE does count. Her view of life DOES count. Being "safe" is nice but doesn't cut it with her peers. BUT, she has to tell you what does fit her image ... If she can't, she loses.
You wrote: It needs to be reliable, fun, safe, economical and have some character
This is my advice. Its a multi-step research that requires a little bit of searching to find out the best for your situation.
First, Go to the bookstore and pick up the Consumer Reports book of Cars. There is always one there, very thick, has every car in it along with descriptions, prices, options and their opinions on different aspects of the cars (e.g., economy, acceleration, space, utility, etc.). You don't have to agree with their opinions ... you are only using the book as a convenient place to see all the cars sold in one book. In other words, the magazine is only a guide to whats available, you do not have to care what CR thinks or doesn't think. Do not get hung up on that part.
Narrow down the choices in your price range ... used is OK, this is just a guide to get you going. SHE needs to tell you which ones might fit her image
Second, go to http://www.edmunds.com. Look up each of the choices. Dad reads the specs, the side bags, etc. Daughter needs to see the color pics and there is usually a video. Read the reviews together. Narrow the choices down to a few cars.
Third, Google for "road tests" (e.g., PT Cruiser "road test") on the final candidates. You will most likely find reviews at places like:
- http://www.caranddriver.com
- http://roadandtrack.com
- http://motortrend.com
- http://www.automobilemag.com
- http://www.carenthusiast.com
Read the reviews together and narrow it down to the final 3 or so ... Do not take what the journalist wrote as Gospel. They are human beings like you and me who have their own preferences. For example, some journalists admit being Corvette nuts biased towards Corvettes winning every review. The point of reading the road tests isn't to take as Gospel what the journalists wrote but rather to get a general feel of the "Consensus" among the journalists. Here is one small example. Many magazines have reviewed the new BMW Z4M Roadster vs. the Porsche Boxster S. One reviewer might like the BMW because its a bit "faster". BUT, if you read ALL the reviews you find on the subject, you will see that the "consensus" is that although the Z4M is a bit quicker ... the Boxster S remains the standard to beat for roadster sportscars being a better car all around. That's why one automotive journalists opinion doesn't count but reading 10 does.
Fourth, go to the car dealers and look at the "new" cars. It doesn't matter that your not going to buy one new. Rather, SHE needs to sit in one, take a test drive, check it out, see if the rear view mirror works for her, etc. Its her choice. This step is VERY IMPORTANT. While I can read a blueprint and know how a house will look or read car specs and know immediately that I might want to buy such and such car, my wife cannot. She needs to physically see the house model with furniture in it and to go to the car showroom and take a test drive. Everyone is different. Skipping this step is an invitation to disaster.
Finally, you should be down to one car she thinks is the best. Then do your used car search wherever.
And one last thing. DO NOT go to say the PT Cruiser forum and ask about it ... everyone there will tell you that the PT Cruiser is the best car made since Henry Ford starting building cars just like most everyone here will tell you that a MINI is the BEST car on the planet. The fact is, there is no one BEST car as everyone's needs are different. You need to get an unbiased view from people with no vested interests.
Best of luck!
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I agree with Chow except for the part about Consumer Reports. When it comes to cars, I tend to buy what they say is a horrible piece of junk. My parents Honda Insight has been great for the past six years and they hated on it. You definitely need to take her to dealers and let her decide. You worry about it being safe enough; she can do the rest.
My MCS was a hand-me-down for the 2nd half of college (hey, I earned it after driving a Chrysler Town and Country for the first three years...talk about image ). Now I just bought a '70 Lotus Europa (with my own money) to keep my busy for many years to come. What else can a Mechanical Engineering major do for fun; buy an old British sports car .
My MCS was a hand-me-down for the 2nd half of college (hey, I earned it after driving a Chrysler Town and Country for the first three years...talk about image ). Now I just bought a '70 Lotus Europa (with my own money) to keep my busy for many years to come. What else can a Mechanical Engineering major do for fun; buy an old British sports car .
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Originally Posted by Oilman930
If you really want to make her happy, don't bother with any of this slightly used but boring cars you have been looking at, instead find a restored Triumph Spitfire say from 1978 to 1980. She will love it!
A girl always remembers her first Spitfire.
Good Luck!
A girl always remembers her first Spitfire.
Good Luck!
Ok, all you old men out there who wouldn't mind having a 19 year old gf, I've got my flame suit on, let 'er rip.
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When I was 19 or 20 (not exactly sure) I bought a used 2 seater Datsun pick-up truck. I loved it so much that when I got rid of that I got a Nissan pickup. 20+ years later DH and I now have El Kabong, my PT Cruiser (and I am NOT an old woman!! ) and a Nissan Titan Crew Cab.
Although it does take a certain kind of girl to drive a pick up .
Oh, and my son will be getting my PT next year and if he doesn't like it, guess he'll be walking! (and yes he'll be paying me for it, as well as paying the added insurance every year).I don't think it will be an issue though, he knows I've completely babied that car and once he upgrades the sound system it will be perfect for him. Then again my son is a bit of a rebel when it comes to image. This year he bought himself a new "My Pretty Pony" beach towel just so he could make his friends laugh, which they do .
Good luck, and just remember pick up trucks are very useful.
Annette
Although it does take a certain kind of girl to drive a pick up .
Oh, and my son will be getting my PT next year and if he doesn't like it, guess he'll be walking! (and yes he'll be paying me for it, as well as paying the added insurance every year).I don't think it will be an issue though, he knows I've completely babied that car and once he upgrades the sound system it will be perfect for him. Then again my son is a bit of a rebel when it comes to image. This year he bought himself a new "My Pretty Pony" beach towel just so he could make his friends laugh, which they do .
Good luck, and just remember pick up trucks are very useful.
Annette